Being a people pleaser sucks and you often end up neglecting your own pursuits. Save yourself by saying “no”, without adding excuses and establishing healthy boundaries.
Look-and-Leap rule, imagine you are in a situation in which you have to select someone for a job or as a partner. You can choose and the person accepts right away, but if you don’t choose the person may not be available. So how to do? Maths tells us we should look at 37% of the candidates without choosing anyone and then choose the best one after that threshold. This gives you a 37% chance of choosing the best one and statistically there is no better outcome.
In life, consider a life expectancy of 76.5 years (depends on country and gender), in this case you should choose the best partner you find after turning 28.3 years old.
